Parents

We decided we were ready to spill the beans to our families. Initially we didn't want to share because of the fear of all their negative comments....

How can you afford this?
Are you sure you're ready to be parents?
Is this really how you want to start a family?
You aren't going to be able to travel anymore.
Maybe God has other plans for you.
What if something goes wrong?
Is this even safe?
What are people going to think?
You can't possibly tell your child.

Even though not everyone is going to agree with our choices, it's taken us 2 years to make a decision, and we are so excited this is the decision we've decided to follow though with!

My parents we told bits and pieces over the phone, and said we would like to take them to "The Main Cup" for dinner. I started off by saying that I have cancelled all of my doctors appointments, and I'm done jumping from doctor to doctor hearing different stories, or try this, and see me in two weeks. That's all I've been doing for 2 years, and I've had it. I'm ready to start a family, and I'm ready to put the past behind me.

Dad's concerns were financial, which is understandable, and Mom's concern was that our son or daughter was going to marry their sister one day. Crazy thought, but understandable. We talked to the social worker, and she said it may happen, but it's highly, highly unlikely. As far as Dad's concern, it was time for me to bust my butt with PartyLite, and MAKE IT HAPPEN! This month alone, I've made close to $1,000! As Vicky from Real Housewives says, Woo Hoo!

Gram was a whole other story. We didn't go into detail, but we wrote on her marker board that we were going to start a family. Her eyes lit up, and she said really? Well Gram thought we were pregnant already! LOL! Not yet Gram, but we are working on it! She wished us luck, and said she would prayer for us. How many rosaries would we need for this one?

So long story short, all went well, and as we hugged goodbye, Dad said, "Make me a grandpa!" That's our plan pops!

With Mike's family, it was a little different. Mike and his father recently started talking again, and I couldn't be happier! Over the last year, they've gotten closer and closer, and Mike has opened up more and more. He shared with his Dad that he wanted to meet up with him, and that he missed having him around. You don't just let your best friend go, you work on a few things, and then you patch it up. I'm so happy for them, and I hope to meet my father in law one day soon!

So Mike told him we were starting a family, and of course John's response was, "Don't you just have toooo?" Mike said "It's not gonna be that easy for us, we've had a few road blocks, and we have begun the fertility process." John was excited, and he wished Mike good luck!

I was excited Mike finally let his barrier down, and shared this exciting opportunity with someone, since he's one to hold his feelings inside. Then, laying in bed a few weeks ago, Mike mentioned he had told Aunt Catherine. It was getting easier and easier for Mike to let his guard down, and I was so proud of him. Next I asked if he was ready to tell Mom! She didn't know we were doing this yet, and she deserved to know too. We were finally ready to tell Mom what our plans were, and fill her in on the details. Aunt Catherine was worried about us, and called Mom to fill her in on the details, so the next morning Mike called Mom, and filled her in on our plans. Mike said he wanted to meet with her, and tell her the details in person, as we were sure she was going to have a million questions, just like my parents did! We set up a date night, and we got our favorite...Chinese! She asked us if we were certain if we were ready for this. She mentioned our lives would change forever, and we always needed to remember our feelings, and make sure that we still focus on our relationship as husband and wife. What great advice! Maybe we should have told our parents sooner, so we could get the extra support, but I guess we weren't quite ready. Mom said we didn't have to go this route, that we would always have each other. We told her that this was what we wanted, and we were ready to add to our family. Mike got a phone call the next morning, and she was contemplating if she wanted to be called Nonna or Grandma. We knew at that moment, she was ready for us to to make her a grandmother, and we were too!

So, all in all, we were glad that we told our parents. We could use all the love and support we could get. Not everyone was going to agree with us, but our parents will always be our parents. They'll never love us any less, but they are great at sharing their opinions! ;) We had to tell one or two parents that we didn't always need their opinions, but they could give suggestions. If we took the suggestion great...if not, oh well!

I'm sure one day our kids will be saying that to us, and I'm sure we'll be on the same page as our parents! We always want the best for our children!

Thank you guys for teaching us to be who we are today! We love you lots, and are glad that you are sharing the joys of parenthood with us! You are going to be awesome grandparents!